a dream one night has prompted me thinking... after all the failed relationships and rejections, i really wonder whats wrong with me. haha! at least that shows that i'm not a bloody gay ok.. =)

ok crappy jokes aside. i think i have made 2 critical mistakes all along...


MISTAKE 1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
personally i think i belong to the 'nice' guy type. why? i dun gamble (except when CNY or some mahjong session where my INTENTION is not to earn $$$ but as a form of passtime), i dun drink (especially after i started driving), i dun visit pro (i swear that i didn't visit any before), i dun scold excessive vulgarity (except in my blog.. hehe), i dun chiong, i dun smoke....

see... so many of i don'ts...

but nice guys always end up last in the queue. and its fucking (opps!) true..

coz nice guys = boring, not so fun guys. i agree to a certain extent.

and i feel that in general, girls dun like nice guys. although almost 10 out of 10 interviewed will say they want a nice guy with those don'ts i mentioned above, in the end they will just NOT happen to end up with one. haha! i call this giving 'model answers' but practicing otherwise. so thats the reason why nice guys always are last...

perhaps i'm really trying to be too much of a nice guy, which is actually a BIG MISTAKE i didn't realise all along. of coz i dun mean that nice guys are totally unwanted, but perhaps they will be appreciated only if the gal has a very bad experience/relationship previously... otherwise being nice simply is not the choice for most gals.

i really need to wake up..


MISTAKE #2: Wrong marketing/positioning
in marketing terms, for a product to sell well, correct marketing and positioning are basics so that we will receive favourable reponse from our target audience. i'll like to adopt this into our real life. everyone of us is just like a product. we need to position ourselves correctly and effectively so that we can sell ourselves well. for my case, i really dunno whats wrong. it seems that either my positioning is wrong as i'm not enjoying favourable response in my targeted market segment, or that my targeted market segment is wrong in the first place, ie i'm going after all the 'wrong' type of gals? haha..

i really need to evaluate myself and find out whats wrong...